Don’t Be Pissed That The Sky Is Blue

“But my friend lost weight and she didn’t stop eating bread. . .”

“Have you tried to lose weight while still eating bread?”

“Yes.”

“Did you lose weight?”

“No…”

“My recommendation to stop eating bread stands.”

“But I get cranky and have low energy.”

“What’s the longest you’ve gone without bread, pasta, or other carbohydrate dense foods and stuck to a diet of lots of vegetables, some meat, and small amounts of fruit and nuts.”

“Two days…”

“My recommendation to stop eating bread still stands.”

Too often we blindly adhere to our ways, hoping there will be some magical transmutation that makes our fiercely held dogma the solution to our problem that it has never been.  We ignore the evidence and maintain our current course on auto-pilot.  Hell, I’ve had clients cling to their carbs like an addict clinging to a crack pipe…

“It’s only at lunch with clients.”

“It’s only when I go to happy hour.”

“But it’s only this one time…”

Every single morsel of food that we eat has a corresponding physiological response. It’s up to you if you want that response to help or hinder your weight loss efforts. Quests for gray areas and exceptions to the rules are paths to “moderation”.  Here is a quote from one of my favorite books on “moderation”:

“Moderation? It’s mediocrity, fear, and confusion in disguise. It’s the devil’s dilemma. It’s neither doing nor not doing. It’s the wobbling compromise that makes no one happy. Moderation is for the bland, the apologetic, for the fence-sitters of the world afraid to take a stand. It’s for those afraid to laugh or cry, for those afraid to live or die. Moderation…is lukewarm tea, the devil’s own brew.”  ~ Dan Millman, “Way Of The Peaceful Warrior”

Am I saying you should never have another piece of birthday cake or drink another cold beer again in your life?  Of course not.  Am I saying that you should make a firm decision and treat your weight loss efforts like an all out war?

Hell yes, that’s exactly what I’m saying.

Let’s take an extreme but not unrealistic scenario…  Let’s say that you want to lose 100 lbs.  If you knuckle down and get ready to go to all out war you can do that in a year.  Or less.

Isn’t a single year of no-excuses dedication worth completely transforming your body, your health, your entire being for the rest of your life?

But still people falter…  Hell, logic falters.  I can talk about how one year of dedication to diet and training can potentially equate to several added years of life and it still probably won’t make a damned bit of difference.  We still want the comfortable, when discomfort is the only thing that will set us free.

Getting pissed that you have to change your diet and exercise habits to lose weight is like getting pissed that the sky is blue because your favorite color is red.

Some things simply ARE.  Don’t get me wrong, I am the first to admit that my way is not the only way.  But some things simply are.

You have to consume less calories than you expend to lose weight.

Eating lots of vegetables is non-negotiable for a healthy diet.

Sleep is required for repair and optimal function.

There is going to be effort. It is going to be “hard”. There is going to be pain and sacrifice. With change it is alway so.  Becoming frustrated and angry that transforming your body from fat to fit requires change is like being pissed off that the sky is blue when your favorite color is red.

Release.  Accept.  Commit.  You can do it.

What beliefs do you hold on to that limit your progress despite knowing that letting them go will help you reach your goal?  Why do you still hold on?  Share your thoughts in the comments below.

Stay strong,

Vic

 

Comments

  1. Sheila says

    I admit! I am a carb addict! I ate low carb for 3 years. Felt wonderful! Went from a size 20 to a size 4! I met and fell in love with a skinny carboholic that eats carbs 24/7! Literally gets up in the middle of the night and eats chips, sandwich, ect! In the 6 years we’ve been together I’ve gone through menopause, started eating carbs again, stopped smoking, and had 2 unsuccessful surgeries for blown discs in my back. I am officially fat now! I also work for an elderly couple who have NOTHING but sweets, goodies, and carbs around. HELP! I just subscribed to your newsletter.

    • says

      Hi Sheila, if you previously went from a size 20 to a size 4 you can do it again. You know what to do, it’s just a matter of re-instituting the habits that made you successful before. You can do it.

  2. Alain says

    Great post ! found myself in that frame of mine and pattern of moderation…no results been trying to loose 15lbs – no go. got in much better shape but still the end results werent’ there. But it was one of your recent posts that kicked me….going through Chemo is hard, landing in a combat zone is hard, loosing a loved one is hard, fighting to stay alive is hard…..when the only thing hard is loosing weight, you don’t know hard or you forgot or you don’t want to know – excuses are the nails in your own coffin. Aristotle said the we are what we repeat each day, thus excellence is not an act but a habit.
    thanks Vic!

  3. Mark says

    Excellent post Vic. I’m having my wife read this, maybe a couple times. I started a paleo type diet and exercise, not to lose weight, but to improve my health. I have had to work to convince my wife that this is the way to go. She does need to lose weight. It has taken a couple months of doing my own research to show her the truth behind her carb heavy diet. It is starting to pay off. It’s people such as you who have helped make it easier for me.

    Thanks a million!!!!

  4. says

    This post is awesome! Vic, YOU are awesome! And Sheila, Alain, Melony, and Mark, you are awesome, too! You can do it! Let me cheer for you! RAH-RAH-RAH!

  5. Art Oswalt says

    I have learned that (everything requires effort the only thing you can achieve without it is failure) and if you never set a goal you will never reach it! Everybody needs someone or something to motivate them! I coach my son in baseball and I have to motivate him and I tell him that when he’s not practicing someone else is to get to the next level and his performance is based on how well he’s conditioned so I push him real hard because he told me he wants to play in the major league one day!! Thanks so much for the diet plan Vic with it and the circut training he does with baseball we can get it the shape together! I am the one that’s out of shape and my son is in pretty good shape now but he can get in a lot better shape with eating the right foods while he playing sport!

  6. Liz Duncan says

    Had a conversation with a friend on this topic just tonight. I’m now going to share this article with him. Vic you’ve nailed it again – I also needed to hear this. Thanks a million.

  7. Daya says

    Vic to the rescue ! haha! As usual, Vic, you’ve nailed it ! So true, and the part about ” Some things simply ARE ” ? How profound can some things be?
    I need to lose that last 10 lbs. Been at 152 lbs for like a month or more now. Need to get to 142.
    Matter of time. Thanks again VIc.

  8. Thanh says

    “Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character.” Albert Einstein. You are correct Vic. There is nothing magical to get fit and healthy. There just need to be a plan and more importantly carrying out the plan. What is troubling is someone like you making a plan available, even a free one to people, yet there are still those with excuses out there. Most timely reminder as we go into the season known for excessive availability of food and drinks. Strange that I see people with hunger and struggling to have one meal a day, yet here we are having a discussion on the need to control excessive eating.

  9. Ricardo says

    I lost 100pounds in 5 months once. Just did cardio one hour before breakfast everyday on weekdays (walking/joggng/spin class) and did some intervals (hill sprints ) for 20minutes before weight training for 90 minutes 3 times in teh week. On weekends I went for one run (30 minutes). The diet was: vegetables, no flour or pasta, and no sugar, no extremely fatty foods like chicken wings. I didnt count calories and everything else I ate. Sleep is the most important thing to stop hurting as well as chicken breast, fish and eggs. Used fish oil too. That;s the big secret but most of all if it ever gets comfortable then it means it is like casual walking for the ordinary person. the body adapts so always keep it just out of teh comfortable zone and go faster or longer. There was no plateau period this way.

  10. says

    “I’ve had clients cling to their carbs like an addict clinging to a crack pipe…”

    Hi Vic – I’ve been thinking about this line since I read this post last week. I don’t really identify with the crack pipe part… :) But the clinging part, definitely. Moderation is fine as long as you don’t want change. If you want change, then full commitment is required. Simple as that, right!? I needed the reminder. My lunch today (chicken curry) is with roasted cauliflower instead of rice. Thanks! – afp

    • says

      Hey! Great to hear from you… I agree that full commitment is needed for full change. Moderation is fine once a goal has been accomplished and you know that you are in full control of the “moderation”. But until then, I say go all out!

  11. says

    LOVE IT Vic!! What a great post. The cool thing is that eventually your favorite color will become blue. I used to hate eating vegis. Now I can’t wait to eat my salads (and yes, I eat one with every meal). Dandelion, kale, swiss chard… love them all. But I certainly didn’t start there. Time will convert taste buds from bread loving heathens to vegi craving saints.

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