“But my friend lost weight and she didn’t stop eating bread. . .”
“Have you tried to lose weight while still eating bread?”
“Did you lose weight?”
“My recommendation to stop eating bread stands.”
“But I get cranky and have low energy.”
“What’s the longest you’ve gone without bread, pasta, or other carbohydrate dense foods and stuck to a diet of lots of vegetables, some meat, and small amounts of fruit and nuts.”
“My recommendation to stop eating bread still stands.”
Too often we blindly adhere to our ways, hoping there will be some magical transmutation that makes our fiercely held dogma the solution to our problem that it has never been. We ignore the evidence and maintain our current course on auto-pilot. Hell, I’ve had clients cling to their carbs like an addict clinging to a crack pipe…
“It’s only at lunch with clients.”
“It’s only when I go to happy hour.”
“But it’s only this one time…”
Every single morsel of food that we eat has a corresponding physiological response. It’s up to you if you want that response to help or hinder your weight loss efforts. Quests for gray areas and exceptions to the rules are paths to “moderation”. Here is a quote from one of my favorite books on “moderation”:
“Moderation? It’s mediocrity, fear, and confusion in disguise. It’s the devil’s dilemma. It’s neither doing nor not doing. It’s the wobbling compromise that makes no one happy. Moderation is for the bland, the apologetic, for the fence-sitters of the world afraid to take a stand. It’s for those afraid to laugh or cry, for those afraid to live or die. Moderation…is lukewarm tea, the devil’s own brew.” ~ Dan Millman, “Way Of The Peaceful Warrior”
Am I saying you should never have another piece of birthday cake or drink another cold beer again in your life? Of course not. Am I saying that you should make a firm decision and treat your weight loss efforts like an all out war?
Hell yes, that’s exactly what I’m saying.
Let’s take an extreme but not unrealistic scenario… Let’s say that you want to lose 100 lbs. If you knuckle down and get ready to go to all out war you can do that in a year. Or less.
Isn’t a single year of no-excuses dedication worth completely transforming your body, your health, your entire being for the rest of your life?
But still people falter… Hell, logic falters. I can talk about how one year of dedication to diet and training can potentially equate to several added years of life and it still probably won’t make a damned bit of difference. We still want the comfortable, when discomfort is the only thing that will set us free.
Getting pissed that you have to change your diet and exercise habits to lose weight is like getting pissed that the sky is blue because your favorite color is red.
Some things simply ARE. Don’t get me wrong, I am the first to admit that my way is not the only way. But some things simply are.
You have to consume less calories than you expend to lose weight.
Eating lots of vegetables is non-negotiable for a healthy diet.
Sleep is required for repair and optimal function.
There is going to be effort. It is going to be “hard”. There is going to be pain and sacrifice. With change it is alway so. Becoming frustrated and angry that transforming your body from fat to fit requires change is like being pissed off that the sky is blue when your favorite color is red.
Release. Accept. Commit. You can do it.
What beliefs do you hold on to that limit your progress despite knowing that letting them go will help you reach your goal? Why do you still hold on? Share your thoughts in the comments below.